Not only is today our first day after
Christmas celebrations, but it is also the day we celebrate the 10 month
birthday of our daughter. Now I could chat about how amazing and wonderful our
life has been since she was born, but I’ve done that before; therefore today is
about preparing you and your baby for that ‘dreaded’ day of returning to work.
For most of us the 10 month
celebration of our children means the countdown to returning to work after
maternity leave. For me personally I have mixed feelings as I can’t imagine not
spending everyday with our little miracle, but I’m also looking forward to
connecting with work peers and challenging myself on a different level of
intelligence. Since moving out to the country I’ve noticed a dramatic shift in
mindsets around working vs. stay at home moms. When in Calgary it seemed the
norm for women to return to work after maternity leave, whereas out here it
seems most women stay at home. For us we’re going to share the at home and work
responsibilities allowing each of us to grow with our daughter and to also
expand and challenge our professional personalities.
As I start to prepare myself to go
back to work I’ve started to look into different recommendations for making the
transition easier for our entire family. I’d like to share a few of those with
you now.
1.
Encourage a bond
between your baby and caregiver through play dates long before that return to
work date.
2.
Get to know the
daycare – meet the staff and spend some time in the new environment
3. Send reminders of home – a favourite blanket,
stuffy, song etc.
4. Establish a morning routine to cue that it’s daycare
or dayhome day.
5. Maximize your time together – the household chores
will wait while you snuggle and play.
6. Minimize meal prep – frozen meals are great options.
7. Give baby time to transition from caregiver to
parent – allow time at the end of the day for your baby
to switch gears back to being with mom or dad.
8. Reconnect through touch – skin to skin contact, bath
time, baby massages…
9. Minimize night waking – establish a night time
routine and how you’ll handle baby waking throughout the night weeks or months
prior.
10. Share the night shift – if both parents are working
away from home take turns responding to your baby’s night time needs.
11. Continue breastfeeding – if your still breastfeeding
the first month of you returning to work is not the best time to wean as your
little one will benefit from the bonding you share during ‘meal times’.
12. Cut yourself some slack – this may be a stressful
time for the whole family, but you can ease this by dividing household chores
and putting your time with baby first.
In conclusion make sure to acknowledge your own feelings. It is perfectly
normal to miss your baby and/or feel upset; take time to talk with your partner
as you continue to be each other’s best support system. If you’re going it
alone, make sure you have someone you trust to talk with and don’t be afraid to
shed a few tears during the process.
“Returning to Work” by Susan Spicer. Today’s Parent. January 2011